Believe in Yourself


It's been a while since I blog here, but recently, I was chatting with 2 of my friends on Facebook. And couldn't help but notice the similarity of the topics we talked about. Bad bloggers. We might have encountered some of them, heck, we could have encountered them on a personal basis too. And one of the chatted topics I've encountered is when bad and nasty people seem to have everything going for them, while the good ones seemed to be struggling. Yes, I do admit that it can be quite a blow to the good ones who try and try, but feel that fate sometimes can be quite blind, so as to speak.


But kindly allow me to talk about the initial topic that came up first. Bad friends, to be particular. You treat them as good friends by sharing what you can and could. But instead of being thankful, they send you PMs trying to put you down. Making you feel like you are a big idiot for being so kind and nice. Oh yes, being labelled a stalker via PM from someone you trusted as a friend can be a little too much to handle. It's like, after all that you do, you don't ask for anything in return, all you can ask for is some appreciativeness in return.


And when people whom you think are friends, turned out to be green eye monsters, that's where you wonder, just what exactly happened to have garnered such a reaction in return. What started off as something that can end up being a wonderful friendship just went straight for the pits. Your so-called new friend(s) suddenly got jealous of you, just because they think you are luckier than them in certain aspects. And that's the precise moment when the green eye monster showed it's ugly face.


I mean, being jealous of someone else who actually bothered to make sure they live their lives to the fullest is just a little over the top no matter how you look at it. Luck, which I personally believe, can be just like the algorithm for gambling. Sometimes, luck is on your side and it looks like you are on a lucky streak for a while. And yet sometimes, luck decides that you've had your lucky and happy moments, and hence decided to let someone else be happy and feel lucky for a change. It's not like luck will just ditch you once and for all, it's just taking a "walk through the park", bestowing it's happiness to everyone it encounters. Some of us do need that little stroke of luck to at least pick up our lives and start believing that good things do happens sometimes.


But along the way, that green eye monster that used to be a friend decided that you are just too lucky and should deserved some hating and nasty words. Just all for the sake of putting your down, making you feel miserable that you should even deserve that little chance to be happy once in a while. And at the same time, be jealous of you for something that they can probably do themselves, but cannot be bothered to. And because they cannot be bothered to, they decide that you should be the target of their miserable moments and seemed insistent to pass that feeling of negativity to you, making you feel like you deserved nothing good in your life.


But all I can say in return is, instead of hating, why not improve yourself and make yourself better than you used to be? Why hate me because I seemed to write better? Hate yourself because you cannot be bothered to improve your writing. Why hate me because I seemed to win more things than you? Hate yourself because you are probably too greedy and want to keep winning the same things over and over instead of giving someone else a chance to feel lucky? Why hate me because I seemed to have a rapport with other people who have the same interest as me? Hate yourself because you only think of yourself alone in whatever you set to accomplished. Why hate me just because I started something a little later than you? Hate yourself because you don't go forth and make it a regular hobby or activity that you enjoy doing.


I can go on and on, and the list can be as endless as the bottom of their black, jealous and bitter heart. But ultimately, instead of hating, why can't they just improve themselves and make themselves better? It's not because I was born with a flair for writing that's why I wrote well. I read books as much as I suck in oxygen into my lungs to breathe. Reading broadens your knowledge of writing, seeing new words for the first times. Understand how to format decent paragraphs and pace your words, so it looks like a well-timed story that you are trying to share with your readers.


Oh sure, I can probably be shameless along the way and join in the cam-whoring activity that seemed so popular with girls of late. But at the same time, I know that by not sharing mugshots of myself, to the point of boring my readers, I am also giving a voice to other girls who feel and think they might not be pretty and they will feel awkward for not being more cam-whoring than other girls. Aside the cam-whoring point, the moral is ultimately that good people need not have to keep up with think-a-like activity just to gain attention. It boils down to the fact that your readers can see for themselves if you can write, up to the point where your writing already paints the picture you are trying to describe. Instead of having to be bored of your same mugshots where you just simply tilt your head, starting with 20 degress to the left, than another shot 45 degrees to the left once again, and then another 60 degrees once more to the left, yet again. It's not like you cannot share your mugshot with something you are trying to take a photo of, but it's the fact that if it's the same shot with just your head tilting left and right repeatedly is what makes it a bane in the end.


And while we are at the topic of bad friends, I would also like to touch up on the topic of self-worth too. While chatting with a good friend whom I had the pleasure of knowing, we ended up on the topic of another blogger whom I had the pleasure of chatting with. (She initiated the conversation actually) And it ultimately resulted in the little known fact within my circle that, this blogger is actually feeling the heat due to the fact that bad and nasty people seemed to get all the endorsements and sponsorship, despite their blogging capabilities not up to par. I know, sweetheart, it's unfair when I think of it too. But, try and see it this way, it's not that they are lucky to be approached. On the contrary, they are thick-skinned and shameless enough to over-knock on too many doors and ask for so much sponsorship in the first place and in turn make it look like they have good karma to have so much luck. It's like every single post screams "Sponsored", instead of telling the readers "I care what you think".


I've seen your blog, sweetheart, and I think you are a good blogger too. It's just that, sometimes, unworthy people like them make you feel like your work is in vain. I feel the same way too previously, but in the end, I just let that upset feeling go away. And I think you should too. What's matter is what you can bring to your readers, and at the same time, knowing what your readers want as well. Ignore those unworthy people for now and concentrate on making yourself better. With time and luck, I know you will have that chance you really deserved in the end.


And at the same time, try to see things this way. Those unworthy, bad and nasty people are so insecure with themselves that they must constantly put up sponsored posts. And this is their trick and ploy to make us think life is unfair to us. But what I would like to gently remind you is that, they are just insecure little bitches who feel they must flaunt something that they never deserved at all. One is so butt ugly, I do agree that that it's pointless to slather on so much stuffs. It will probably make her skin rot away for all we know. The other, is just a professional at having 2 faces. One ugly face she showed to me, calling me names and trying to make me feel that doing things I love and like is pointless, and at the same precise moment, show a nice and pleasant face, fooling all who don't really know the real her. That she is selfish, jealous and a name-caller through and through.


I am sure you can see for yourself that they aren't that great at what they do. People can see for themslves. And personally, if I do not know you, I would think and feel that you and your blog and what you do is definitely better than them. You care for your readers, and I absolutely love the little fact that your latest blog post is really articulated, precise. And you do actually take the time to list out the points and give a thorough explanation alongside with the points stated. This is actually better than their blogs where they just simply copy + paste from the respective websites and try to pull it off as a blog post in the first place.


And I perfectly understand that with your young age, you cannot possibly reward your readers more due to money constraint. But that's not the most important aspect for you right now. What you need to do is to carry on what you have achieved in your latest blog post for now. I feel it is good enough already. But with timing in the very near future, I am positive that you can reward your readers with giveaways that is worthy and brings you pride and pleasure in it too. And I also love the little fact that you bother to post up actual relevant photos with explicit details on getting freebies available to readers who are interested. Alongside with relevant links on getting more information should your readers be interested as well.


Like the Avance Duo Demaquillant Super post, I thoroughly enjoyed the little "Shake Shake" image you inserted in it. It's actually cute and sweet without looking cheesy, unlike those bad and nasty people who just love OTT inclusions here and then, to the point it makes me feel nauseous just to look or even remotely think about it. And do you know I love the Barney Stinson reference you threw in? It's just so nostalgic just to think about it. I myself probably wouldn't even think of using a Hollywood actor's phrase at all, but I think you nailed it with that little nugget of LOL moment.


In the end, I just simply want to urge you to ignore those unworthy, bad and nasty people. Whatever they do, they just want to make the rest of us feel jealous that they seemed to have everything going for them, and not for us. And try to see it from this perspective I have. Too much sponsorship in almost every post practically tells me that this person doesn't have any originality to come up with something that truly matters to them. Their "voice" on their blog is just lost in between too many sponsored stuffs, and it makes me wonder. Is there even a real human behind all the facade anymore? Or is it actually a bot that we never though it was.


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Riih Rion is bashful when facing cameras and video-cams. But she soon realized she is more comfortable behind a PC screen than in front of a lens. Riih is passionate about beauty products, paranormal & folk lore from anywhere in the world and sushi. Especially sushi. Come visit her blogs or drop her a comment :D

2 comments:

  1. It's so in vogue to be nasty and unpleasant anymore. It's the culture now. I hate it too.

    Have a terrific day. ☺

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    1. I hated it too. All that hating when people don't even bother to try and make themselves better :(

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